Until last week, I felt that I was making steady progress on the healing front. I could talk about Ethan without crying. I was sleeping well. I was excited about our new baby.   I started to wonder when I would stop mentioning Ethan in conversation. It’s been my habit when someone asks me how […]

Parents ask each other harmless questions at the playground all the time: How old is yours? Is s/he crawling, talking, walking yet? I’ve come to find that while the crawl and walk responses are clear-cut yeses or nos, the question of talking is a little more complicated. If you mean “talking” in the same way […]

Dear Jacob,   Just before you were born, I started to wonder what your voice would sound like. I’d seen your body and face from all different angles on the ultrasounds, so I had some idea of those physical features. Your voice was another matter entirely. You had yet to make a peep in this […]